Self-love is a non-negotiable part of my professional/personal development. Let me tell you why it should be your #1 priority too.
Over the past few years, I have been ignited researching, prototyping and practicing what women's leadership looks like on a woman's terms. Three weeks from today, I will lead a group of incredible women kicking off The Irresistible Woman workshop (Jan 30-Feb 1st).
It is the new year, and everyone is fired up to integrate more self-care into their lives. I want to see more people integrating self-love.
You might be asking yourself some important questions: “Do I really need self-love? I mean, I’m fine. Self-love sounds a little woo-woo. The workshop sounds great, but I’m not sure if it is for me. How would self-love actually make a difference in my life?”
At first, I didn't realize I needed self-love either. The moment I tried it, I was hooked. Here is how I discovered I needed it. When I wasn’t giving myself self-love, I started feeling some pretty nasty symptoms...
(With self-love, I feel more accepting, welcoming and sure of myself. I am more open to adventure, learning and love).
I felt lonely, even when I was surrounded by people who cared about me. I thought, ‘I should be happy,’ though I still felt an emptiness.
(With self-love, I have deeper and more meaningful relationships. I feel connected and intentionally choose to be around people who value me and my time).
I began to get more and more busy, which eventually led to burnout and fatigue. I tried filling my time with more projects, more meetings, and more things to do in order to avoid feeling lonely or jealous.
(With self-love, I can simplify and prioritize my life better. I have an abundance of time and energy).
I found myself in a job I hated but somehow couldn’t leave. The myth of ‘job security’ took a slow, tight grip over doing the work I was most passionate about.
(With self-love, I can insist on being respected and heard. I expect that my time and talent is valued).
All of this led to increased self-criticism. When I couldn’t keep my criticism focused inward any longer, I found it turned into criticism and judgment of others. This is where it really got bad…
I stopped feeling joy. It became harder and harder to find time for self-care and being physically active. And, I got wrinkles. Yes. A lack of self-love gave me wrinkles – the ones between my eyebrows because I was frowning so much. Not to mention the tension headaches that came along with clenching my jaw...and decline of my sex-life.
(With self-love, I smile more, let go of self-criticism, and delight in a lifestyle filled with sensual celebration. 4 words: I feel pleasure again).
I became less creative, less patient, and less able to empathize with others.
I became less decisive, because I didn’t know and couldn’t express what I want.
I lost connection to my body, which had me feeling frumpy and groggy most days.
(With self-love, I'm bursting with innovation, clear about what I want, and am sick less).
I was not able to express my love to the people I loved.
Days would fly by and I couldn’t tell you what I had done with them. Self-doubt became a regular roommate, as did self-sacrifice (because if I wasn’t good enough to love myself, then I might as well give myself away).
Without self-love, I was barely treading water. The crazy thing is, I THOUGHT THAT WAS NORMAL?! With self-love, I realized how good I could actually feel.
I’m far too pragmatic to believe in a miracle cure. However, learning that I deserved self-love and learning how to demand it has transformed me in ways I didn’t even know were possible.
Self-love IS a wonder drug. For a while, I was too scared to try it. I thought all those symptoms I was experiencing were just regular problems I should expect to face as normal ups and downs in life. I have never been so grateful to be proven wrong.
Self-love is for you if you’ve ever felt these symptoms.
Self-love is for you if you’re tired of feeling mediocre.
Self-love is for you if you are ready to feel 'good enough.'
Self-love is for you if you want unshakable confidence.
Self-love is for you if you are ready to renounce your loyalty to burnout, sacrifice, and self-criticism.
Self-love is for you because you deserve it.
This workshop just might save your life, like it did mine.
It is no accident you are reading this.
If you are still uncertain about whether The Irresistible Woman workshop is right for you, call me. I'm happy to offer a FREE 30 minute coaching session to help you explore if this workshop is aligned to your goals, hopes, and your soul's work. Email me to set up a time that works for you.
Scholarships are available!
My team wants any woman who is ready to commit to self-love to be able to. Contact us to claim your seat today and make 2015 the best year of your life.